Holiday loneliness is a problem for many people. This is especially true for people who are recently divorced. In this case, it may be a person’s first holiday alone, which can add to the sadness and depression they already feel. While this is no doubt a difficult time for a person to navigate, there are ways to make is less emotionally trying. In this case, Psychology Today offers the following guidance.
It’s easy to assume other couples around you have perfect marriages. This is particularly true in this age of social media, where it seems like everyone is sharing innermost thoughts and feelings. Keep in mind that the image that other couples present isn’t always completely accurate and comparing your life to other people is almost always a fool’s pursuit. Instead, consider that many of the people you see that appear so happy may actually be concealing hidden pain.
Additionally, if it makes you feel lonely or insecure hanging out with other couples, consider spending more of your time with single individuals. People who’ve also gone through a divorce, whether it was recently or years ago, will be able to commiserate with you during the holiday season. They can also offer advice on how to deal with complicated feelings this time of year based on their past experiences.
Finally, don’t try to deny your emotions. If you feel sad, express your sadness freely in a way you feel comfortable with. However, don’t dwell on bad feelings for too long. Instead, look to the future at the new life you could potentially build for yourself. This is also a great time to reach out to the people who provide you emotional support. This could be your friends, family, or even a trusted counselor who can help you build coping mechanisms.