Learning that your spouse was unfaithful is a blow. For some, that’s the nail in the marital coffin. They can’t work on the marriage once they know what went on. When this leads to a divorce, there is a chance that the relationship with the affair partner will continue. If you have children, this could put you in a precarious position.
If you’re facing the reality of having to send your children to your ex’s house when they have their affair partner there, you might need to take a step back and think about how to handle the situation. One of the most important things to do is to focus on the children and how they’re impacted by the situation.
It’s easy to become emotional in these situations, but take the time to see how the other adult interacts with your child. This isn’t going to be easy, but there is a chance that the affair partner is being a caring and responsible adult.
Remember that you being upset isn’t going to make the relationship end. It is only going to make you more miserable than you have to be. It won’t be easy to put up that emotional barrier, but you’ll probably feel better once you do.
For some parents, the issue isn’t that the lover is still with their ex. Instead, it’s that there is a moral dilemma because the lover and the parent are in a physical relationship without being married. This might be a situation to bring up with your attorney. Just beware that once your divorce is finalized, your ex might wed the individual, which would put an end to the moral object. At that point, you’d have to learn to live with the situation.
